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Everyday is A Celebration of Love | The Beauty Room Evansville

Yep, it's that time of the year again. Where America's commercialism  shows its' ass and tells us to buy everything because of some made up pagan holiday. We know, we get it, we are used to it. While Valentine's Day has its perks (insert 50% off chocolate the day after), it leaves a lot of people disgruntled due to not feeling the love. Guess what you can and you should FEEL THE LOVE EVERYDAY. Here are a few tips on how I celebrate love 365, give or take a few according to my cycle.

Changes in Small Batches

 I've missed blogging about random things and not just being confined to beauty. So I'm going to start sharing more on this blog. I like the thought of documenting what's going on in my life for myself & anyone else that may be going through the same things.

Small changes lead to how your whole life is shaped. Helping out at a local natural soap store, I get to see how much love & attentiveness goes into making small batches of products. I want to apply that to the changes I want to make in my life. Sometimes I want to push myself to just change everything at once, but it so much easier to handle and analyze when you make smaller changes over time.

This week I want to make changes as far as my interactions, mainly conversations with people go. Nothing is worse than when you are in a great mood and you interact with someone who puts you in a bad one. All because you maybe took what they had to say wrong or they misunderstood you. Have you ever experienced this? I'm realizing more and more how much I let other people's energy and attitudes affect me. 

I AM LETTING them effect me. I have the power to make that stop.

In order to do make it stop, I believe these steps might help me.

I WILL pick the direction the situation/conversation is going in.
Often times I go into a situation not even knowing how I really want it to play out. So my energy is pretty confused to begin with. How can I expect it to flow into a great conclusion if I haven't even prepared myself for the  situation to go that way? I am going to start making sure before I interact with people that I set my own intentions for how I would like it to go.

I am NOT an Interpreter.
I think where I fail and maybe others do to, is trying to interpret what people mean. With over 80% of conversations being in written form, there is a lot left to the imagination. How are they actually saying this to me?  If there is something I don't understand in the conversation. I am just going to ask. Being clear helps everyone. You know what they say about assuming...

I WILL let it go.
We don't have to start singing the Frozen song, although, I am excited because Once Upon A Time comes on in a couple hours. Whether the conversation goes great or not, at the end of the day, I will be OK. Sometimes I let a conversation that didn't go so great play over and over in my head for days! So unnecessary and unhealthy. This week I am going to focus on if an interaction with someone didn't go so great, I am going to play it through once in my head to see if I could have done anything different. Once that's done. I'm letting it go and moving on. 

 

What are some tips you have for dealing with situations like this?
comment below or tweet me @according2kana

& remember SHARING is CARING 

The Happy Chronicles | Rob Love | 21 Days of Open Letters

After watching an excessive stretch of OWN TV I am now even more obsessed with Oprah. So I thought about implementing more stuff that I am learning from her & her guests.

On her segment with Shawn Anchor on Super Soul Sunday, he suggested once a day for the next 21 days emailing, tweeting, or calling a person you know and basically spending 2 minutes telling them how awesome they are. Not only does it give them a boost, but you as well & can even play a factor in prolonging your life! I am compelled to give his idea a try. I've decided to do open letters on my blog for people that cross my mind. =)

ROB, 

Gosh we are so weird. It's been years now that you have been in my life & I appreciate you being as patient as you are with my attitude and my inability to not comprehend that things may possibly not go my way all the time. Thank you for spending countless hours coming to see me & especially on occasions you knew were important to me. Your support does not go unnoticed or unappreciated.

...Oh yeah & thanks for being so got damn sexy all the time =)

My hot Steadman,


The Happy Chronicles | Linda Craig | 21 Days of Open Letters

After watching an excessive stretch of OWN TV I am now even more obsessed with Oprah. So I thought about implementing more stuff that I am learning from her & her guest.

On her segment with Shawn Anchor on Super Soul Sunday, he suggested once a day for the next 21 days emailing, tweeting, or calling a person you know and basically spending 2 minutes telling them how awesome they are. Not only does it give them a boost, but you as well & can even play a factor in prolonging your life! I am compelled to give his idea a try. I've decided to do open letters on my blog for people that cross my mind. =)

Linda Craig,

Although I do not personally know you I feel like you've had a little sprinkle in my life and I enjoyed talking to you about health and Reiki. I still actually remember our phone conversation, where I was sitting at and thinking as you were sharing your wisdom.  I love all your post & I can't wait till I actually meet you in person. I love the positive vibes you spread.

Sending you all the good vibes the earth has to offer,

Kana B. 

7 Things You Need To Know | Life in Your Early 20's

In a short time, I will be exiting this beautiful bracket of life. I thought to myself, (as I lay in bed after a night full of drinks with names that make no sense, guys that make even less sense and jamming out to an awesome band) I should really bestow this information on the world….or whoever cares.

So in my last week of being 23 here is what you need to know about the early 20′s!! According to yours truly.
(Common Sense Disclaimer: Of course everyone doesn’t follow the same path. This is simply my opinions based off of my own personal experience. So its ok if you don’t agree!)

You will most certainly meet a lot of ass holes.
Oh gosh, I mean its inevitable so I’m just warning you! Women mature faster, that’s science I think…ha! So guys in their early 20′s are in reality 15 years old.
I would say although I’ve had some very young bridal clients, the consensus I’ve gotten from older couples who have lived happy lives together, encourage having fun at this age and not putting so much stress on finding the one. This is the time you should be finding yourself.

You will loose friends.
More bad news…ugh I know! But in retrospect some of the friends I lost did me a world of good. It’s a natural growing pain. I now have attracted people that fit the lifestyle I’ve grown to love. That lifestyle being Drama Free!

 

Here's to new beautiful friendships

•You will be broke at times.
Whether you’re in college or just breaking out into the adult work field, for me this was the transition period. Going from having tons of help financially to doing it on your own, can be scary. There will be days Ramen noodles are your only option. My advice is tough it out. It builds character. Plus there is prosperity and abundance waiting for you. You will appreciate your things after you worked so damn hard for them!

You will step onto a real path of discovery.
I have never loved myself more than I do right now. I feel like the past 2 years for sure I have grown tremendously. I have found not only a career that I love, but I have found a little piece of sanity. I am way more confident in myself and I believe that came from being on this path of wanting to know who I truly am.

 

You get to be completely ridiculous.
Irrational, spontaneous, indecisive ..etc. The older you get you really have to tone that down, as more and more responsibility comes your way. So use it all up now. You are 20 something it’s soo okay ..and actually insanely fun to say “Oh well, I’m young” and people really do accept that as a legitimate excuse.

You will like your parents a little more.
I hated my mom when I was a teenager. I felt like she was ruining my life constantly. I never got to do anything in my mind. The complete list of cliche teenage gripes is what I thought I was living.
As I’ve gotten older my relationship with my mother has blossomed. Everything she has ever done has been for my best interest. She is an amazing woman.I still learn so much from her, now I’m actually smart enough to listen!

 

There is a million other things I could tell you, but most important is
 

Do everything!
The early 20′s is a time to explore ..everything!! If I had a dime for every time I heard someone older “I wish I would have done that when I was younger ..” well then I could have avoided the being broke thing altogether.

The early 20′s are a crazy, beautiful, scary, fantastic times. See the world, work hard, dance your ass off, laugh until your tummy hurts, love like crazy! I am so thankful to be able to continue to live & learn.

What are some of your experiences you’ve been through in this stage of life to share with the youngins coming to this time in their life?

Comment below or tweet me your advice @according2kana
And a special shout out to all the 2013 graduates!!!