personal develoment

Changes in Small Batches

 I've missed blogging about random things and not just being confined to beauty. So I'm going to start sharing more on this blog. I like the thought of documenting what's going on in my life for myself & anyone else that may be going through the same things.

Small changes lead to how your whole life is shaped. Helping out at a local natural soap store, I get to see how much love & attentiveness goes into making small batches of products. I want to apply that to the changes I want to make in my life. Sometimes I want to push myself to just change everything at once, but it so much easier to handle and analyze when you make smaller changes over time.

This week I want to make changes as far as my interactions, mainly conversations with people go. Nothing is worse than when you are in a great mood and you interact with someone who puts you in a bad one. All because you maybe took what they had to say wrong or they misunderstood you. Have you ever experienced this? I'm realizing more and more how much I let other people's energy and attitudes affect me. 

I AM LETTING them effect me. I have the power to make that stop.

In order to do make it stop, I believe these steps might help me.

I WILL pick the direction the situation/conversation is going in.
Often times I go into a situation not even knowing how I really want it to play out. So my energy is pretty confused to begin with. How can I expect it to flow into a great conclusion if I haven't even prepared myself for the  situation to go that way? I am going to start making sure before I interact with people that I set my own intentions for how I would like it to go.

I am NOT an Interpreter.
I think where I fail and maybe others do to, is trying to interpret what people mean. With over 80% of conversations being in written form, there is a lot left to the imagination. How are they actually saying this to me?  If there is something I don't understand in the conversation. I am just going to ask. Being clear helps everyone. You know what they say about assuming...

I WILL let it go.
We don't have to start singing the Frozen song, although, I am excited because Once Upon A Time comes on in a couple hours. Whether the conversation goes great or not, at the end of the day, I will be OK. Sometimes I let a conversation that didn't go so great play over and over in my head for days! So unnecessary and unhealthy. This week I am going to focus on if an interaction with someone didn't go so great, I am going to play it through once in my head to see if I could have done anything different. Once that's done. I'm letting it go and moving on. 


What are some tips you have for dealing with situations like this?
comment below or tweet me @according2kana

& remember SHARING is CARING 

Life Coaching Journal | Excerpt 3


As Excerpts should be, some of these will be really short.

My last session was a day late due to the holiday, but really ended up being very timely. We delved into taking a look back on things that have happened in my life and realizing patterns I have created. Whether we all like to admit it or not, WE ARE THE COMMON DENOMINATOR in ALL of our problems. With things tending to fizzle out for me when I reach a year mark at each job, that was something I really have to take a closer look at.

We also talked a lot about being a BIG Personality in SMALL town. With her going through this personally she said a lot of things that I will for sure carry with me for a very long time. Hearing things like, "find your focus", "walk your walk, because life is not a popularity contest" and my favorite "align with yourself" were all very encouraging to hear.

The very next day I got a very nasty Facebook message from a woman basically downing me trying to make something of myself in our small city. Remembering back on "finding my focus" I realized I have to focus on all the positive words I get from others instead of any of the negativity. I plan to try really hard to do this as I move forward with my career.

A life coach is a lot of things. This week mine proved to be a friend that could give me a lesson on life!

Life Coaching Journal: Excerpt 1




Can anyone REALLY coach us to live life ‘right’? I am not sure but, I am planning on finding out.
I am in my mid 20s and at a point in my life where I have built a lot of momentum, but not quite sure what to do with it! I am sure lots of people feel this way. I have hired a Life Coach to hopefully help me with not only business but also with all of my relationships.
I’ve decided to keep you updated with excerpts of my journal on this journey,  although very personal I feel might really help the next person! 
I have a meeting with my coach once a week starting this week. I will let you all know how it goes as far as what I am learning and how I am feeling after each session.
I am really excited to be doing this and looking forward to seeing some major improvements in myself.

So stay tuned for the good, the bad and the ugly!