I never thought having two little kiddos say they miss their Kana, going to the North side of Evansville or having chats with police officers would fill me with love, but it has. I've gotten to experience these things because an already established family wasn't too afraid to let a single girl in.
I've missed blogging about random things and not just being confined to beauty. So I'm going to start sharing more on this blog. I like the thought of documenting what's going on in my life for myself & anyone else that may be going through the same things.
Small changes lead to how your whole life is shaped. Helping out at a local natural soap store, I get to see how much love & attentiveness goes into making small batches of products. I want to apply that to the changes I want to make in my life. Sometimes I want to push myself to just change everything at once, but it so much easier to handle and analyze when you make smaller changes over time.
This week I want to make changes as far as my interactions, mainly conversations with people go. Nothing is worse than when you are in a great mood and you interact with someone who puts you in a bad one. All because you maybe took what they had to say wrong or they misunderstood you. Have you ever experienced this? I'm realizing more and more how much I let other people's energy and attitudes affect me.
I AM LETTING them effect me. I have the power to make that stop.
In order to do make it stop, I believe these steps might help me.
I WILL pick the direction the situation/conversation is going in.
Often times I go into a situation not even knowing how I really want it to play out. So my energy is pretty confused to begin with. How can I expect it to flow into a great conclusion if I haven't even prepared myself for the situation to go that way? I am going to start making sure before I interact with people that I set my own intentions for how I would like it to go.
I am NOT an Interpreter.
I think where I fail and maybe others do to, is trying to interpret what people mean. With over 80% of conversations being in written form, there is a lot left to the imagination. How are they actually saying this to me? If there is something I don't understand in the conversation. I am just going to ask. Being clear helps everyone. You know what they say about assuming...
I WILL let it go.
We don't have to start singing the Frozen song, although, I am excited because Once Upon A Time comes on in a couple hours. Whether the conversation goes great or not, at the end of the day, I will be OK. Sometimes I let a conversation that didn't go so great play over and over in my head for days! So unnecessary and unhealthy. This week I am going to focus on if an interaction with someone didn't go so great, I am going to play it through once in my head to see if I could have done anything different. Once that's done. I'm letting it go and moving on.
What are some tips you have for dealing with situations like this?
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